Lonely Party of One
Being married to a traveling man isn’t always fun. This week Luke is in San Francisco working on a project that will likely keep him on the road for several weeks. It’s the first time we’ve been apart since getting married, and I don’t like it one bit!
I joke that Luke tricked me into falling for him. See, the first year we were together he didn’t travel once. I thought I had a great guy who would always be around whenever I wanted to hang out.
That was until he smacked me with the news that he was put on a job in….TEL AVIV, ISRAEL and would be gone for two months straight. Waaaaa??? Say it isn’t so!
I was really worried about what would happen to our relationship while he was gone, but it ended up being a good thing because it forced us to evaluate how we felt about each other and talk about how committed we wanted to be to our relationship.
Luckily we both felt the same way and decided to stay together while he was gone. Right before he left, we said “I love you” for the first time.
While it can be hard when Luke is gone traveling for work, it’s helped me become independent and more sociable with friends. I know how important it is for me to maintain interests and hobbies to keep me busy and happy while he’s away.
I think maintaining a full life with friends and activities, some of which we share and some we do alone, is what makes us both happy and ultimately attracted to each other. I think our friends appreciate that we’re not tied to each other all the time too. Sometimes you just need to hang with the girls!
Of course, when he walks in the door on Friday I’ll have a weeks worth of hugs saved up for him. :)
How do you guys maintain your independence in relationships?
I’m with my Tomek in relationship about 5 years and only once I went on vacation with girls for all week – it was ours the longest “separation”. I missed him so much, but I and him understood once and for all How we care each other..Fortunately he mustn’t work in Tel Aviv;) sometimes we don’t see each others few days because of his job or my
but it is important to me to know that if I phone him and ask to arrive he will be for few minutes:-)
I think that independence is a most important base of good relationships :-) and hugs after parting? are priceless… ;)
I wish I would have seen this post sooner. Our family was in San Fran for a week and I would have tried to look up Luke and take him to dinner with all of us. My Batgirl could have met Batman. :) We love that city. If you’ve never been, you need to go with him out there at some point.
Agnieszka – I’m glad you get to see your honey a lot! It must be nice to have him in town all the time. :)
Dave – that would have been fun! Luke is really great with kids. They just adore him.