Bye Bye Second Trimester

Sorry for the lack of posts lately. This month was crazy-hectic! I had to give three different presentations for work, one in front of 300 people. And I traveled to CO for work twice while Luke went to Mexico and Vancouver. So needless to say, it’s been a busy, busy month.

Anyway, this week I hit the 28 week mark, meaning my second trimester is officially behind me. I was thinking about how I wrote a post about my honest thoughts on the first trimester, so why not do one about the second?

The past three months couldn’t have been much better in terms of how my pregnancy progressed. I had a ton of energy, no sickness and generally felt great. I could be pregnant forever if it was always like the second trimester!

Sticking with the “things I love and things I hate” theme from the first trimester post, here we go:

Things I love about the second trimester:

- Finally looking pregnant! My bump is definitely out there and I have to admit it makes me smile when people see it and wish me well, or tell me that I’m glowing. Here’s a photo from the beach recently.

- Feeling healthy. I honestly would sometimes forget I was pregnant this trimester because I felt so good. I no longer felt nausea or tired all the time. In fact, last week we went for a six mile hike AND I hit golf balls. Here’s my prego swing.

It’s pretty funny seeing the reaction from all the men at the range as I walk by carrying my clubs with a bump. :)

- Finding out the baby’s sex. We found out around week 20 that we were having a baby girl and from my post about it, you can tell I’m pretty excited about it.

- Getting kicked. Ha that sounds like a funny one, but I really love feeling her move these days. At first it took some getting used to, but now it’s comforting to know she’s doing alright in here. Sometimes Luke and I will “play” with her by poking one side of my stomach and feeling her kick us back.

- Picking a name. We have decided on a name for baby girl and I’m in love with it! It’s not really a secret, and I’m planning to do a post announcing it here soon. Everyone we’ve told has said they love it just as much as us, so I’m feeling good about this decision.

Okay now onto the “thing I hate,” which is more like “things I could do without.”

- Heartburn. I don’t have it nearly as bad as some women do, but I have had some nights where sleeping sitting up has been a necessity. I’ve found that eating pineapple after a meal helps a lot. It has this enzyme called bromelain in it that causes you to digest food more quickly so it doesn’t sit in your stomach and cause an increase in acid.

- Spending money. This is the trimester we really started getting things ready for baby girl’s arrival. That meant dropping some dough on a crib, mattress, changing table, rocker, stroller etc. Seeing the money fly out of our bank accounts definitely brings some anxiety to the surface.

- More worrying. I think this is just a part of becoming a parent, but my worries these months include: worrying about not feeling her move enough, worrying about child care when I go back to work, worrying about breastfeeding and finally worrying about the whole giving-birth process.

- Dental Problems. I am learning the hard way about what being pregnant can do to your teeth and gums. Apparently the increased blood flow causes gum issues and your teeth can leach important minerals to the baby, making them weak. I chipped a back molar, which caused some decay and now it’s possible I will need a root canal! I am seeing my dentist for the third time in two weeks next Thursday.

In general, I will look back on the second trimester very fondly. One week into the third and I’m still feeling great. Here’s hoping I can avoid some of the discomfort I’ve heard women experience these last three months.

  • abattylife

    Thanks Rubi!

  • abattylife

    Thanks for taking the time to write out all this great advice, Colby! Especially on the “what life is like after baby” front. I had Luke read it and I think you convinced him to join me at a breastfeeding class. Thanks again!

  • Colby Gallagher

    Liz good to hear things are moving along smoothly.  Here are some things I think you might find comforting as you prepare for baby girls arrival:

    -Craigslist.  No one knows if you bought that playmat / boppy pillow / bumbo seat used.  And there is always a surplus of these items from people who are done with them.  Just dont buy a crib or car seat used.  

    -Breastfeeding:  Two things, take a class with Luke there, and make sure you feed immediately after delivering.
     
      Luke, you need to make sure you pay attention in the class, because Liz likely won’t remember much of this stuff and will be exhausted after giving birth.  Be a cheerleader for Liz and ask lots of questions of the nurses and lactation consultant. Even if you know the answer, sometimes having an expert repeat it to both of you is a confidence builder.  Also, ask them what you are not asking.  
      
      There will be a LOT of commotion by all the nurses, obgyn etc. after the baby shows up if you are doing a hospital delivery.  Also you and Luke will be in awe of how cute she is and excited to touch her.  She will only be awake for about two hours, during which everyone in that room will be trying to take her from you, then she will crash for a couple days, where you will have to wake her up every 3 hrs to feed.  You need to use these two hours as much as possible for feeding while she is awake.  It is the easiest feeding you will have for the next couple days.   Dont get frustrated if she doesn’t latch right away.  Neither of you have done this before.  Again, ask for help.  

    -Life:  Erika says its normal to feel like “Oh my god what have I done I want my normal life back”. You and Luke will be great parents.  Its a ton of fun.  

    -Childcare:  This was stressful for us also.  We didn’t get it really finalized until after Thomas was born.  It will be OK.  We used Care.com and found a ton of good providers, but ended up going with someone referred to us by word of mouth.  Read up on using a FSA or a working parent tax credit to cover the expenses if you haven’t already. 

    -Time off: I would recommend taking a full 12 weeks off for you and 3 or so for Luke if you guys can swing it.  Going back to work will and sending her to childcare will be tough, but you will work through it.  The first three weeks back are a great time to get comfortable and learn a little bit about how to be parents.  

    -Relationship:  Enjoy the next three months that you and Luke have together.  It will be hard to relax after she shows up, but on the flip side you and Luke will find you appreciate each others abilities and peculiarities in new ways after her birth.  

    I think i’ve blabbed enough.  Good luck you two seem to be doing well so far. 

  • Rubifanzone

    Hi Liz,
    It sounds like you are right on track and you are glowing, sometimes I wish I was in the office at Heavenly with you, but, now I can write to you and find out how you and the little one is. All your concerns and expenditures are on track.
    Rubi