Moving – Part Eight

Yep – you read that title right. Part eight. As in this is the EIGHTH time we’ve moved since getting married four years ago. I think we may actually be insane!

The big move back to Ohio is coming up this Tuesday. Of course we have nothing packed, but got a sitter all weekend to get everything done. Lila and I will be flying back on Tuesday, while poor Luke drives a Uhaul across the country. I wish we could ride with him, but toddler in a car for 40 hours … no way, no how.

Since I shared with you all that we are moving, things have really fallen into place for us. It’s almost strange how they worked out so nicely. Like the universe was on our side with this one.

First, I’m so proud to share that Luke got an amazing job! He’s going to be Director of Finance for a software start up, which also happens to be where my brother works. A huge bonus to this job is that Luke will be working from home, which has been a dream of his for some time. He was pretty excited about the new Macbook and accessories he got to deck out his home office. In terms of my work, I’ve been lucky that my clients don’t mind where I am working and are sticking with me through this move.

We found a private seller who bought both of our four-wheel cars and already have two cars lined up for us in the midwest. Luke’s friend is a dealer, and found him a new Camry and me a used Ford Flex (photo below). I know some people hate the look for Ford Flex’s, but I sort of love them! Plus there’s three rows of seating for our expanding family. I just cannot bring myself to drive a mini van.

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We’ll be living with my parents at first until we can find a house. I am a total real estate junkie – HGTV is my favorite channel –  so it’s been super fun to scout out our first home. My dream home would be an older house that either has been renovated, or is priced so we can renovate. I’d like it to be walking distance to shops, a park or school for Lila. Here are a few I have my eye on.

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l7d28a444-m0r ldf9c7f44-c0r l0f64b144-m0rToledo is such a great real estate market. You can get a lot for your budget, which is exciting. We are working with an awesome realtor – Christine Stowell – who lives in an older home herself and her husband has a home renovation business in Toledo, so she totally gets what we’re looking for.

This week we’ve been making the rounds saying goodbye to our favorite people and places here in Reno. The wonderful moms I met through Gymboree met me for wine and also gave me this super cute memory book of the fun times we had together with our kiddos. They are too sweet.

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We’ve been talking about our move a lot with Lila, hoping to prepare her as best we can for the upheaval her world is about to experience. I say “Lila, soon we will be moving to Ohio and we won’t be living in this house any more. We’ll be living with Gee and Mimi.” She says “Yeah!” and then other times says “No!” So we’ll see how she handles it.

I think the hardest part for her will be missing her babysitter TeeCee (Tracie). She’s gotten really close to Tracie and her family and loves them so. I’m just going to do my best to be there for her and let her know it’s okay to be sad and miss them.

There is so much to get done between now and Tuesday, which has me up at night, but I just keep telling myself that the next month is going to be stressful, but after that it will all be worth it. I’ll keep you all updated on how it goes!

 

 

Etsy Mother’s Day Gifts + Earring Giveaway!

Mother’s Day is coming up! I love this holiday. A whole day dedicated to the love, commitment and compassion we mother’s put into our families. Now that’s something to celebrate!

Since it’s just a few weeks away and you need some lead time when you’re buying something handmade and totally fabulous off Etsy, I decided to but together my list of Mother’s Day gift ideas a bit early. The theme this year? Anything wanted but not needed. IE shiny, pretty, thoughtful gifts that say “I thought you’d enjoy this, mom.”

Mother's Day Gifts

PLUS – you have a chance to win a pair of earrings for yourself or your mom below.

1. Pretty handmade jewelry (Giveaway!)

Jenn, a mom friend of mine, recently shared with me her Etsy shop link and I fell in love! She has the coolest style and it definitely comes through in her creations. Nothing says “you’re special” like some pretty jewelry.

GIVEAWAY!! Jenn has agreed to give away a pair of her super-cute fabric covered stud earrings to one of my readers. To enter to win these earrings, just leave a comment on this post telling us why you love your mom. Entries close Friday, May 2 at 10:00 am PST. 

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Here’s a lot at more of the super-cute jewelry Jenn has available in her shop. I’m pretty sure your mom would love any of this.

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2. Handmade ceramic jewelry holder

This is my go-to gift for my recently engaged friends – a pretty place to put their new bling. However, I also love the idea of a ring holder or jewelry dish for mom. This Etsy shop makes a ton of beautiful ceramic dishes and ring holders in a variety of colors.

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3. Epsom Bath Salts

I am a big bath person. There’s just nothing more relaxing than a hot soak with a glass of wine after a long day of toddler-wrangling. Epsom bath salts are my favorite because they also pack a lot of health benefits like promoting stress relief, easing sore muscles and joints and removing toxins from the body. Click on either photo below to buy the epsom salt shown in the photo.

Epsom Bath Salts

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4. A Mom-Approved Wedding Band

When you’re chasing after sticky toddlers with food smeared on your hands and twenty things in your arms, the last thing you want is your diamond getting snagged on your clothes or worse, on little skin. Luke got me a simple gold band like this last year to wear on my “mommy days” and I love it. I actually probably wear this ring more than I wear my diamond. It’s so dainty, simple and elegant. Plus – buying gold is a good investment!

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5. Waxed Canvas Tote Bag

This is another present Luke has gotten me (he has great taste) and I adore it. Waxed canvas it super durable, so no worries if little hands touch it. The leather straps, metal finishing and simple interior make me so happy when I carry this bag and NOT my diaper bag. Here’s the listing on Etsy. waxed canvas tote

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6. Something Pretty for the Home

We women like to surround ourselves with pretty things, but we can’t always internally justify spending money on them. Hello! Perfect gift category. Here is a collection of pretty home things I think your mother would like looking at. Click on the image to go to the Etsy listing.

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vintage mail holder

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Go with one of these “you don’t need it, but you might want it” Mother’s Day gift ideas and I’m pretty sure your mom will call you her favorite. Or if you’re a mom yourself, maybe leave this post open on your husband’s computer. :)

Don’t forget to leave a comment telling me why you love your mom for a chance to win a pair of Jenn’s pretty fabric covered earrings! Entries close Friday, May 2 at 10:00 am PST. 

Coming Home

The Batman family is on the move! We are headed back to the Midwest where we plan to lay down some permanent roots near our family and friends. We’ll be living in Toledo, Ohio – my hometown and where my parents, brother & his family, best friend & her family and many more live. It’s also about a 2.5 hour drive from Luke’s folks in Indiana.

I know, I know … it’s a little crazy to be leaving sunny Lake Tahoe and Reno for the city that had the worst winter in the US last year, but to be honest, weather is just a drop in the bucket compared to all the things we want out of a home. The biggest being proximity to our family and friends.

It’s funny how having a child shifts your perspective. When we first left Chicago for Lake Tahoe, we were in search of adventure, outdoorsy lifestyle and of course the skiing. But now that Lila is here, we’d really rather be taking her for a walk at the park than going skiing. And what we’d REALLY like to be doing is taking her for a walk to the park with her grandparents, cousins, aunts & uncles and friends.

These days my dreams for my life are simple and attainable. Having my parents over for a Sunday BBQ. Owning a home with a big yard. Being close to my best friend and her boys. Going to the Blueberry Festival each summer in Indiana. Being able to attend baby showers, 90th birthday parties and engagement parties for the people I love.

And when we thought about it, both Luke and mys families are so great … I mean Lila really hit the grandparent jackpot … that it just didn’t seem right to not have her experience their love in person as much as possible.

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So we’re packing up and moving back home at the end of May. I will continue to work from home and have several long term clients who don’t care where I live. Luke has some leads on a few great positions (send him good vibes!). We’ll be living with my parents until we can find a house to buy. Right now we’re house hunting in Perrysburg, Maumee and Moncolva.

When I left my hometown 11 years ago, I honestly never thought I’d be back. Now not only are we coming back, but I couldn’t be more excited to raise my girl (and future kiddos) in the midwest surrounded by the people we love.

Now we just have to get through another cross-country move. Eeep!

Learning to Say Yes

So lately I’ve been trying on a new parenting approach. I guess you could call it somewhat permissive, lax, free-flowing – all scary words in the world of parenting, I know!

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It came about after reading this blog post from Janet Lansbury about the power of acknowledging our child’s perspective. It got me thinking about what Lila’s world must feel like. She has about 20 words, but can’t yet communicate all she wants. She is starting to flex her independent spirit, yet still wants on hand firmly planted around my finger. She is learning about the world with an insatiable curiosity, but doesn’t know it’s limits yet.

Sounds like a pretty confusing and frustrating place to be, right?

I decided to take a few days to really hone in on my observation skills to see what was causing her frustration and how I could help. I watched her in her play and interactions with people – especially with her main care-giver, me. It became clear rather quickly that her moments of big frustration were usually after being told “no,” or having something taken away, or not being able to do something she wants. Pretty normal.

But I also noticed that I was saying no to her a lot (not the actual word, but the intention). “We’re not going to do bubbles right now, I’m folding laundry” “I can’t let you play with my makeup, it will make a mess.” “Please don’t put your hands in the dirt.” “Don’t pick that up off the ground, that’s yucky.” In fact, when I thought back on one ten minute period, I had essentially told her “no” eight different times. Eep!

I realized too that while many of my “no’s” were totally necessary, others were more MY opinion or desire for how I thought our day should go and weren’t necessarily needed. I mean there really isn’t a reason I can’t put the laundry aside for a minute to blow bubbles out on the deck, right?

I decided to start giving Lila as many “yeses” as I could. As long as it wasn’t something that could be a safety issue or be so annoying as to make me lose my cool, then I am trying to go with it. And so far, my quest to say yes has taken us on some fun adventures.

You want to take your shoes off and put your feet in the lake? You want to taste the sand? OK!

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Sure, you can try eating your smoothie yourself with a spoon. It’ll make a mess, but that’s ok.

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You want to try climbing this ladder by yourself? Let’s go for it. (she made it to the top on the first try!)

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Running in the dirt? Why not!

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I think having more yes in her life has helped Lila deal better with the necessary nos. Giving her a little more control over her decisions, actions and feelings has cut down on her frustrations while also building her confidence as a little decision-maker.

And it’s also taught me a good lesson … how to look on the bright side and be open to the “yes” moments in life.